Finding Balance in Your Life

Is your life calm and easy? Well balanced? Chances are, certainly if you live in the West, it’s not! Making me even more aware of the differences these past few months – balance-wise – were our new family ties with Kenya, Africa.

I see my 2nd son, Dan, racing around growing a great business (We Drywall Inc), being a great single parent to his young son, remembering to go to the gym and play hockey but not managing to find time to shop, do housework and cook because he chose to fit in a visit with brother Ben this week instead. He has a ton of energy – more than anyone else I know – but even he looks exhausted.

My disabled friend manages to work full-time and fit in a few sessions at the gym – but only with no family obligations and with homecare to help around her one-person home. It seems so unfair to have to make a choice that clearly doesn’t fulfill all of her family/play desires – just because she’s disabled and simply doesn’t have the energy?

I’ve come to the conclusion that, whilst our infrastructure and our healthcare may be wonderful, life in the West is unhealthily hectic and impossible for most of us. We’ve created a monster.  I look forward to the day (soon, I hope) that I can travel and search for a home that allows more balance in life.

For now, the best thing to do is to keep the need for balance in your life at the forefront of your mind: be conscious of it.  Be willing to be flexible and try different options to see which fits best for you. Be mindful of including exercise – come what may – because exercise alone seems to keep your capacity and stamina healthy. Constantly adjust your ‘happy-meter’.

My own highlights so far this month?  My 3rd son, Ben, married a beautiful woman I am yet to meet (photograph here) and despite enormous hurdles is happy and optimistic.  My youngest son, Thomas, has been designing websites – very successfully – for nearly 8 years and has now started his own business called MidnightDonkey which is taking off like a rocket (now is the time to email him if you’re about to create/change your website).  He is – and always has been – at the helm of ReBuildingYou.

Three of the most important things you can do to help get well – on top of following your doctors’ orders, resting and believing that, without a doubt, you will get well:

• Take an excellent ’super’ multi vitamin and lots of C, D, E
• Use the Sota silver pulser to give your immune system a break – this is a totally non-invasive and drug-free gadget that works like a charm – amazing….
• Check out “What I Mean Is…” a unique workbook (there’s not one other like it in the world) for high functioning adults and get your speech and language ‘put back together’

Most importantly I have good friends, fabulous family and although life is hectic now,  I look forward to an easier, more peaceful time one day soon – and to meeting Doris! I wish you happy times (if a bit too busy sometimes ) – Julie

Tagged as: balanced emotions, MidnightDonkey, single parent